I am certain that now is the exact right time to be a parent. I haven't yet found the guy that I want to marry, but I don't want that to stop me from making the most important commitment of life, to be a parent.
I will be a parent who loves to laugh, sing, play and have adventures. While I believe in providing structure and education, I also believe that the child will tell you who they are and what is best for them in their own way.
I have always been fascinated with how children think and express themselves. I love babies and toddlers move, how they babble and start to talk, and especially how they look at you. I love that they have no past and can only respond in the moment. I will never forget the experience of being a child myself - small and vulnerable and in need of encouragement - with a deep desire to be listened to and taken seriously. When my niece was born, I absolutely fell in love with her, and I have no doubt it will be love at first sight for me.
I intend to plant the seeds for a fulfilling and adventurous life. I want the child in my care to feel good about themselves, to feel unconditionally loved, and to have the freedom to explore their potential.
If the right man comes along, I will make sure that he will be a great father to my child. I am happy by myself, and I will be happier in my own family with my child.
"Children are not the people of tomorrow, but people today. They are entitled to be taken seriously. They have a right to be treated by adults with respect, as equals. They should be allowed to grow into whoever they were meant to be - The unknown person inside each of them is the hope for the future." - Janusz Korczak MD
I have done a lot of work to become the person that I was meant to be. I will do the same for a child in my care.
I come from a very hardworking family. Although my parents were of modest means, they valued hard work. My father was a teacher, and my grandmother, who had been a beautician in Romania and Israel, lived with us. I followed their example, putting myself through college and graduate school, and starting my business soon after graduating.
My favorite books were about female role models: Louisa May Alcott, some early suffragettes, Marie Curie. The idea that I was a person of value was an important idea that has informed my life and helped me through many obstacles. I loved Russian and British literature, self help books and to-do books. I cultivate curiosity in myself, and have the ability to pursue knowledge - of how to do the things I want to do, even if it's it's fixing my toilet using a Youtube tutorial. While I think all children are naturally curious, cultivating curiosity so that it last into adulthood is a gift I would like to pass on to my child.
Me as a teenager in Wildwood, NJ
I'm a therapist, and am lucky to have rewarding and enjoyable work. I am successful in my own business, financially secure and able to provide a comfortable life for myself and my future child. I work for myself, and because of that, my schedule is light and flexible and will always revolve around my child's needs, with plenty of time to bond and be together. And, because of my work, I have studied child development, and have a good sense of what is normal and when kids need extra help.