How I Stay Positive During a Crisis
It is not always easy, but this is how I do it now. There is a voice in my head telling me that everything will be alright. I don't know where it came from, but it's there. I try to stay connected to that voice. I suspect it is my grandmother - we grew up with her. She took the bus from New York every weekend for a few years, to stay in a small apartment on the side of our home - just one room and an adjoining bathroom. It may be from my fourth grade teacher, Miss Prati (I am a longtime teacher's pet), or my favorite babysitter, Lorraine, who could make her eyebrows twitch magically.
I write down a list of my fears and problems. I have done this since I was a teenager. I find that problems in my head seem so much bigger, more emotional and scarier. But when I write them down, they are just words on a page. My brain starts to work, and I can imagine a light at the end of the tunnel. More recently, one month, I wrote each problem, the kind of problem that was keeping me up at night, on a piece of paper, and put it in a box. A few months later, I read the pieces of paper, and either I was past the problem, it wasn't troubling me anymore, or I had moved forward on the problem, or had moved on to another problem. I'm not saying this works for every problem, or every person, but it taught me that most of my fears will eventually fade, and the problems they attach to, eventually resolve in some way